Christine Webber, psychotherapist and health writer, has said, “Stop thinking others are better than you. While it’s fine to think highly of others, it’s irrational to translate this as meaning they are ‘better’ than you. Admire others’ traits, but not at the expense of your own”
I think that this is commonplace in our society today. It has been for me.
A couple years ago I saw a sweatshirt that said, “believe in your selfie.” At first I laughed. But I came to love the message.
How many times do we walk into a room, or scroll through instagram, before beginning to compare ourselves to someone else?
I think that it’s something that we all do, even without realizing it! Theodore Roosevelt once said that “comparison is the thief of joy.” And I believe that. There’s been countless times where I have started a day feeling good about myself, and then as the day went on, and I began to compare myself to other people, my level of happiness and self confidence began to decline. It is so easy to do, and so difficult to control.
Thich Nhat Hanh has said, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”
I think that we come to accept ourselves better by realizing the strengths that we have and seeking to help others do the same.